Does white balance stay the same with or without the filters? What happens if you adjust EV back to 0?
The white balance should stay the same, that is the "Neutral" in ND. But I have observed some slight change in color cast testing some NDs.
You should be adjusting the EV back towards 0. Of course some have their reasons for shooting slightly over or under exposed.
In the long run it doesn't really mater whether a particular set is exactly on the mark as far as the f- stop reduction. You will quickly figure out based on the amount of ambient light and the brightness of the subject which of your NDs will be most appropriate for what you are trying to accomplish.