What he is telling you is you aren’t looking at the .DNG. You are looking at the JPEG thumbnail that is included in a .DNG file so that when it’s on your computer in a folder you can look at the little JPEG representation of it instead of opening the file to see it.
In the images you have above it shows the resolution of the two images. The “.DNG” you are showing is 960x640 and the JPEG you are showing is 5472x3648...
Of course the JPEG looks better! It literally has almost 20,000,000 more pixels and 70x greater resolution!
You need to use a different program to open them and then make sure you “export” a copy in your desired format.
.DNGs can’t be “viewed” directly because they don’t have pixels. They are a recipe on how to make a picture and then you need software to make a picture from it.
If you’d like to upload one of your dng files to Dropbox or google drive I can process it for you so you can see what it really looks like